Generations: The 3rd Pinoy Parenting Blog Carnival1. What are the things your parents did that you would definitely still follow?2. What are the things your parents did that you would do differently?
I am raised in a family living frugally… we are taught to scrimp when necessary. My parents taught us how to be content with what we have and how to live within our means. We are taught to work hard and save if we want something, a new dress or a toy perhaps. I even experienced selling something…going around the community…just to earn a little for something I want to have.
I also grew up in a family that believes children needs a little bit of spanking. I remember when I was young if we utter bad words my mother will hit our mouths or scare us that she’ll make us chew “siling labuyo”. That’s why we grew up never using cursing words even as a verbal expression. When we did something wrong we receive a good spanking from our father. His belt or rod will not spare anyone of us if we’re wrong. We experienced kneeling down the floor with mongo seeds or rock salt, arms open wide.
We are also taught to value our studies since they are doing everything they can just to pay for our education. In return we often brought home medals, awards or ribbons, which made them proud of us. We are not always on top…some of my siblings are not on the honor roll but we are not running behind the class as well.
We are taught of good values like respect, kindness, courtesy and modesty.
In conclusion, I think I believe I was raised well by my parents. The way my parents raised us is a good pattern for me to raise my daughter and future children. But of course something appropriate to the present and with a little bit of creativity.
Now that I am a parent my self, I want my children to at least experience the things I experienced one way or another. I want to pass on to them the values I've learned. I know I cannot make them literally sell something around the community like what I did before but I want them to learn to strive hard for something they want so as not to spoil them. We as parents want them to learn to depend on God as the source of our blessings and not on their parent’s jobs. We want to discipline them with love like what I've felt when I was disciplined by my parents. We want them to feel that they are love and that our family is a family filled with love.
I also grew up in a family that believes children needs a little bit of spanking. I remember when I was young if we utter bad words my mother will hit our mouths or scare us that she’ll make us chew “siling labuyo”. That’s why we grew up never using cursing words even as a verbal expression. When we did something wrong we receive a good spanking from our father. His belt or rod will not spare anyone of us if we’re wrong. We experienced kneeling down the floor with mongo seeds or rock salt, arms open wide.
We are also taught to value our studies since they are doing everything they can just to pay for our education. In return we often brought home medals, awards or ribbons, which made them proud of us. We are not always on top…some of my siblings are not on the honor roll but we are not running behind the class as well.
We are taught of good values like respect, kindness, courtesy and modesty.
In conclusion, I think I believe I was raised well by my parents. The way my parents raised us is a good pattern for me to raise my daughter and future children. But of course something appropriate to the present and with a little bit of creativity.
Now that I am a parent my self, I want my children to at least experience the things I experienced one way or another. I want to pass on to them the values I've learned. I know I cannot make them literally sell something around the community like what I did before but I want them to learn to strive hard for something they want so as not to spoil them. We as parents want them to learn to depend on God as the source of our blessings and not on their parent’s jobs. We want to discipline them with love like what I've felt when I was disciplined by my parents. We want them to feel that they are love and that our family is a family filled with love.
I know it will be a challenge for us new parents to raise our children in this world that we live now…with all these new ideals, influences of medias, and new technologies. It’s always tempting to compromise. But if we want them to grow with good values that we learned from the past generation, it’s possible. We are instruments in molding them into good and responsible citizens.
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